#30 Coffee with John

Yesterday marked the first weekend I ever had a Coffee with John. Typically, I meet up with people during the morning hours of the week.

The weekends are the days to do the cleaning of the house, getting things ready for the week, attending this or that event, or just tackling some sort of project I have created for myself – organize this, paint that, or just catch up with work, if needed. Always something, right?

This weekend, for the first in a while, I didn’t feel like doing any of the above. I felt tired and I was not in the best frame of mind – just stuck on my own story, you know?

Now, was I looking forward to a virtual coffee on a Sunday afternoon? Yes, and no. Yes, because the person is someone I love dearly and had not spoken to them in many years. And no, because I was just feeling lethargic and irritated at the world.

The hour came and I am glad I got out of my head.

But that’s not the only takeaway. What kept popping in my mind afterwards was how we gamble with time.

We think we have all this time to have that coffee with an old friend; take that one class we always been meaning to tackle; undertake and conquer that alluding home project; visit all the places in our list of countries to see and experience; call that one relative you have been meaning to call in the last three months…the list is endless, as long as the excuses not to tackle them. We gamble and think we will get to those things, eventually.

Perhaps, we will. Maybe we will live for 100 years. Still, even then, I bet you, we will still have not done all the little things we put aside for no good reason.

Not to say that we all now need to get into a race against time, running wild with no regards for the future or our responsibilities.

That would be fruitless. All I can say is that we gamble with time. The irony is that we think we don’t have the time to do all the little things we say we want to do. So we just put them aside, for another more auspicious opportunity that might never come.

I don’t know if this is true but I remember coming across somewhere about certain cultures that treat each interaction with each other as if the last one, with no guarantee of a future meeting. For me, there is something beautiful about that.

Makes me cherish people more, appreciate the day-to-day, and push myself to get out of my own head to just do one of those little things I have always wanted to do or have meant to do. We all make our gamble with time.

Make it worth it.

#29 Coffee with John

Coffee with John number thirty-something (I had lost count when I originally wrote the note).

The takeaway: gratefulness. We all have our routines, network of friends, comfort zones. Breaking out of those routines and levels of comfort to take the time to meet someone that you are not close enough or know only through a distant circle, takes courage.

We all have our routines, network of friends, comfort zones. Breaking out of those routines and levels of comfort to take the time to meet someone that you are not close enough or know only through a distant circle, takes courage.

I am grateful to everyone that has said yes to meet me. I am grateful for your time, your stories, and your boldness. Thank you for sharing, taking the time to meet, and for giving me your warmth.

I look forward to connecting and having more conversation over coffee (or tea).

Thank you. I am grateful.

#22 Coffee with John

I am glad I went for my Coffee with John this morning. I had a great conversation with a passionate, intriguing, and energetic individual.
 
Still, it took effort to get out. I just woke up with a dark cloud hanging over me without much desire to interact with anyone.
 
The meeting went well and I came back to get ready for the rest of the day, including preparing the family meal of the day. While I was at it, I happened to catch a story on NPR about an unlikely friendship: that of the basketball player, Charles Barkley, and a Chinese chemist/scientist in Muscatine, Iowa named, Lin Wang.
 
I was just listening to the story with interest but without any emotional attachment. That changed when the story mentioned that Mr. Lin Wang had passed.
 
The mention of palliative care and some other details of the story just brought a wave of emotions, hitting me instantly and entrapping me in a swirl of tears.
 
Next thing you know I was just crying, sharing in the pain of Mr. Wang’s family and feeling my own unrepairable sadness.
 
I needed that cry. It felt cathartic.
 
I guess the takeaway of this morning in its entirety: honor your emotions. Let them come as they come.
 
Also, human connections have no boundaries. Take the time to connect with people, even when it takes effort on your part. You never know what kind of friendships you will cultivate.
 

#18 Coffee with John

No picture from the last Coffee with John but what I do have is the takeaway, which is courage.

It takes courage to persevere and stand tall while the winds of life blow at you in all, unexpected directions.

It’s easy to fold to frustrations and emotions (as valid as they might be). It doesn’t mean that while you face situations all will go smoothly or as you planned. It probably won’t. All you can do is continue on your journey.

 

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PS: If you are dealing with the loss of a loved one as well and want another perspective, I encourage you to read the following blog: https://stilliriseinnc.org/

 

 

 

#17 Coffee with John

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Another ménage à trois. Sometimes coffee is just better with three people.

This was also another Converse Coffee with John meeting. That’s two in a row with different people.

I am telling you: all the cool kids wear Converse. They probably converse, too.

Today’s takeaway: perseverance.

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Life throws obstacles, challenges and a myriad of things at us, and all we can do is march forward to turn the page. That might mean starting a whole new chapter in your life, one that’s only beginning to be written by you.

 

#16 Coffee with John

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After a short hiatus, I restarted coffee with John today (November 27, 2018). Today’s rhythm of the conversation flowed, carrying us from topic to topic and making us unaware of time.

The takeaway: Enjoy the moment.

Also, get yourself a pair of Converse. All the cool kids are doing it. But not a requirement to have coffee with me.

 

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#14 Coffee with John

November 13th

Today Coffee with John at my favorite local: my house.

The takeaway for today: love and hope can see you through darkness.

Amazing and inspiring to hear how people have overcome obstacles and the many challenges life throws at you at any given moment.

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#13 Coffee with John

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Another great Coffee with John this morning.

The takeaway: amazing how others can inspire you with their tenacity, strength, and honesty.

I am inspired to be more candid and direct without anger, viciousness, malice or any expectations. It’s just about letting your feeling, emotions and thoughts be heard.

#12 Coffee with John

Had my second virtual Coffee with John early this morning. I don’t know why I was initially resistant to the whole idea of virtual meetups. Well, actually I know why, but both past experiences have been great on their own right.

The takeaway, and it’s worth repeating: don’t be hesitant to try new things.

So those that had asked me to do Facetime/Skype (or whatever version of it) and I had totally ignored, I am sorry.

Truly, I am but you have to understand my goal of setting up these Coffee with John sessions have been (and continue to be) for me to get out of the house for my own personal reasons.

But now, I am more than willing to do the virtual meet-ups. So let’s do it. Send me a message and we will set a time to “meet up.” Just bring your own coffeeVirtual Coffee2

#11 Coffee with John

November 9th

I want to thank my “anonymous” sponsor for today’s Coffee with John session.

I thank you for your friendship, generosity, thoughtfulness, and love. Touched that you thought of supporting my pet project by sending me an extremely generous gift card.

Truly grateful!

Today’s takeaway from back-to-back meetups: 1) don’t be afraid to try new endeavors; and 2) good conversations can truly nourish our minds and spirit.

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